New Parenting Advice Says to Ask Babies for “Consent” Before Diaper Changes

• Empathy and respect
• Connection and communication
• Less reliance on punishment or authoritarian rules

Critics argue that gentle parenting can become overly permissive, while supporters say it promotes healthier long-term emotional development and boundaries.

Safety Emphasis: Don’t Distract During Intimate Care
The researchers also caution against distracting children with toys, songs, or rattles during diaper changes. Their reasoning: children should learn to notice when someone is touching intimate areas, supported by consistent verbal cues and routines.

Use Correct Anatomy Terms
Another central recommendation is using anatomically correct language (for example: vulva, penis, anus) during diapering and bathing. The guide argues this can support child safety by helping children communicate clearly with trusted adults if something inappropriate happens.

A Practical Reminder for Parents
The authors acknowledge that adding narration and connection to every diaper change can feel like extra work. Their advice is to do it as often as possible, but not to pressure yourself to make every change a perfect “teachable moment.”